Sex, Love, & Marriage II
The Deception
Published: March 23, 2023
Post updated: August 17, 2023
By: Brian C Jenkins
Know your Enemy!
The first, fifth, eighth, and ninth statements of The Nine Satanic Statements that initially appeared in The Satanic Bible, © 1969 says the following…
“Satan represents indulgence instead of abstinence!”
“Satan represents vengeance instead of turning the other cheek!”
“Satan represents all of the so-called sins, as they all lead to physical, mental, or emotional gratification!”
“Satan has been the best friend the Church has ever had, as He has kept it in business all these years!”
Brothers and Sisters in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, I urge you to let God open your eyes! Satan and his demons know just how much sexual sin corrupts us. There is no more hiding, no more excuses. Welcome to the fight of our lives, literally!
Right off the bat, we can see very clearly that the first declaration of the Satanic gospel is to indulge rather than abstain; this is a tremendous and deceiving lie. As Christians, we are not banned from submitting or having fun concerning sex. On the contrary, it is also deceiving to believe abstinence before marriage is wrong. It is God’s will that we train children in the way they should go. However, there is liberty in Jesus, and we can indulge and have fun too. The point is that modern-day Christians have access to freedom in Christ. We don’t have to view sex as a crutch, job, or taboo. No, there is a way for couples to procreate and still have fun. How? Let the church say, “Marriage!”
Am I being deceived?
There is a principle that is imperative to understand before answering this question. The following section will be set up to understand this principle specifically to help us understand how Satan constantly and continually deceives so many.
It is written:
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. For here, you have envy and selfish ambition; there, you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is, first of all, pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.
James 3:13-18
If the goal is to see our lives as God does, defining what we know the way God does is crucial. James said anything rooted in envy and selfishness is not wisdom from God; it’s demonic! What does that look like?
If I only could get some help, then I would change.
If only I had what my friends have, my life would be easier.
I only want to go to my doctor because I can’t trust everybody.
I want a husband or wife so bad; I’ll let anybody in if they look good and give me attention.
I want to be super focused on my career, so I don’t have time for other responsibilities.
The list goes on, but always with the focus on, you guessed it, ourselves.
Nothing listed above or below resembling envy and self-ambition is of God. It is a demonic influence to think otherwise. We have to view life this way. It is a must if we want to return to freedom in Christ.
The More We Know
“Are you still so dull?” Jesus asked them. “Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and out of the body? But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. Out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person…
Matthew 15:16-20
Wow, did you catch what Jesus is talking about? He went into some heavy stuff like murder, adultery, SEXUAL IMMORALITY, stealing, lying, and talking trash to others to ruin their honor and reputation. He’s saying all these things stem from a person’s heart and come out through spoken words. According to our Lord, that’s the stuff that messes up a person’s character.
But wait a minute, have you ever wondered how these thoughts and ideas end up in our minds in the first place?
The world has been conditioned to hear and buy into what James 3 calls
“demonic wisdom.”
This is Heavy
Here’s the deal: Once we wrap our heads around the fact that these messed-up thoughts start in our hearts, we can start digging into why we keep falling for all that godless wisdom that’s all over the place in our society and culture. As Christians, we are subject to the influence of demonic influence everyday and when we actually buy into what they share, we spiritually tie ourselves to the demonic table rather than share at the Lord’s Table.
For it is written:
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you knows how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgresses and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity but in holiness. Therefore, whoever disregards this disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
Satan’s agenda is to steal, kill, and destroy. As the father of lies, he accomplishes this mission through deception. His number one message is that we can be free without God. Yet, God’s goal is for us to become sanctified. That is to abstain from sexual immorality (Any sexual act outside of God’s already established Family Plan, consisting of Man and Woman), to know how to exercise self-control in holiness (set apart, pure) and honor (high respect). In verse 5, Paul says not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God. In other words, we should not solve our lust problems like the world does. This includes porn, masturbation, sex outside of marriage, same-sex, anything, etc.
Why is sanctification necessary? Sanctification must occur to introduce us to our own personal reason for being created on this planet. As we become more and more sanctified, the fruit of God’s Spirit becomes more and more evident in our physical lives. We can love harder, be in a continual state of contentment, and have confidence in times of storms. We can operate with kindness, loyalty, and gentleness and know how to keep our bodies in check. This must happen to understand what abiding in love truly means. But first, we must learn how to love and grow.
Every time this topic comes up, and our argument looks and sounds like the world, the culture, or anything outside of God, we are siding with demons by embracing their wisdom. Let’s use another event in the Bible to prove that anything outside of Christ is demonic wisdom.
Enter Balak and Balaam!
Balak caught wind that the Israelites had settled near him and his people. There were so many Israelites that he became afraid. He decided to look for a person who could curse them so that he might have a fighting chance against them if they ever buck on them. Bala hired Balaam to curse the Israelites.
Isn’t this so typical of us as human beings? To want to destroy things we don’t understand. To not build a relationship with people because they are different from us? To feel jealous because they are blessed differently than us? We may not understand many things, but the choice to solve problems through fear rather than love is not of God. We choose not to obey our Lord; instead, we curse them. You will never… You’re always… Don’t try because you will fail…
Dig Deeper
It is written:
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us? But he gives us more grace.
That is why Scripture says:
“God opposes the proud
but shows favor to the humble.”
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.
Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it. There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?
James 4:1-12
Back to Balak
Although Balak hired Balaam to curse the Israelites, God would only let him speak blessings over them. Seven times, he opened his mouth and blessed them. Balaam loved to get paid even if that meant using deceptive tactics. Balaam couldn’t use his go to practice of divination to condemn the Israelites, so he taught Balak how to entice the Israelites to sin.
It is written:
While Israel was staying in Shittim, the men began to indulge in sexual immorality with Moabite women, who invited them to the sacrifices to their gods. The people ate the sacrificial meal and bowed down before these gods. So Israel yoked themselves to the Baal of Peor. And the Lord’s anger burned against them.
Numbers 25:1-3
Let’s unpack this verse. Balaam taught Balak that the way to cause a person to sin is through sexual immorality. Paul also talks about this cycle in Romans 1:21-25. You may recall from Part I that we share in Christ’s life through communion by eating the bread and drinking the cup. The cross being the altar, Jesus was the ultimate sacrifice for the forgiveness of sins. In Part III, we dive deeper into these topics.
The Israelites who were deceived were invited to sacrifice to a Moabite idol. This is the visual, physical representation of what happens when we decide to suppress God’s knowledge. We partake in something that is a sacrifice to demons. That only happens at their table, the Table of Demons.
For example:
I hear all the time that sex before marriage is wrong, and yet everyone is doing it.
Nobody cares! Why should I?
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you knows how to control his own body in holiness and honor.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4
Remember, it is also written…
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation, he will also provide a way of escape so that you can endure it.
1 Corinthians 10:13
Number 25:2 says that the Israelites were so deceived they actually partook in the Moabite idols’ sacrificial meal. They bowed to their ‘gods.’ In other words, they sat at the table of demons and sipped the cup of demons. THEN, they yoked themselves to Baal of Peor.
Time out! Wait a minute! Jesus said in Numbers 25:1 & Revelation 2:14 they committed sexual immorality. Numbers 25:3 says they yoked to Baal Peor.
Finally, the point…
The moment the Israelites chose to give in to the lust of their flesh, they had already sinned. Demons are looking for men to willfully eat and drink at their table. Eating the bread represents the experiential sharing of the sacrifice at the altar.
Sacrifice what, to who?
Our bodies are offered up to share our lives through idolatry, the belief that you are your ‘own god.’ This is the lie that satan desperately wants us to learn from him.
When a person lies down to have sex with another, it is called presenting themselves as a sacrifice. In the spirit, the offering of the body in the bed is the willing sacrifice.
The sipping of the cup represents the legal sharing of life. It is what binds us (Yoking) to the covenant made. Therefore, once this has been done, demons share their ‘wisdom’ with those who participate.
We can yoke to Jesus by believing in Jesus and understanding what his shed blood means. This is how we can share his knowledge and blessings under the Law of the Spirit. We can also yoke to Jesus in a covenantal marriage; see Part 1. However, a union that does not have God’s covenantal blessing is not subject to sharing in the knowledge and blessings of God. It then automatically is subject to sharing the wisdom of demons under The Law of Sin and Death.
This is why it is written that we can not partake of both cups. We can not share the new covenant in Christ and participate in a covenant with Satan and his folk. We have to choose either one or the other.
TAKE GOD SERIOUSLY!!!
Ignorance of the tables does not free you from participation. Ignoring what happens spiritually does not absolve us from these truths. The fact is, we are always participating with one or the other. We must willfully join with Christ, or we can stay blind to the fact that without him, we constantly and consistently participate with demons.
How do I know which table I sit at?
The Lord’s cup produces good fruit in our lives. The cup of demons has wicked fruit in our lives. This is why in Romans 1:21-25, Paul said God gave them up to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves. That’s a massive indication of which table we sit at. Dishonoring the body, cursing & cussing, being faithless (not loyal or placing yourself above others), sexual immorality (sex is love and love is sex), cutting and markings. “If we can not agree, then feel my wrath” attitude.
What’s worse is that Satan tries to trick us into thinking that the consequences and curses of sharing their life are expected and should be embraced. Like saying it’s ok to be a prisoner to rot and embrace chaos.
There goes that word share again.
All of a sudden, they start sharing their take. It’s like, “Go wild, chase your desires; it’s all about you – who cares about the consequences?” Ring a bell? These ideas emerge from that tricky “demonic wisdom,” leading to some seriously rotten outcomes. Suddenly, we’re fixated on the most ridiculous stuff, and we’re not bothered about why or where it comes from as long as it feels good or suits our “I do what I want” attitude. We get thoughts like, “Hey, casual flings are no big deal,” and just like that, we’re on a slippery slope. Next thing you know, we’re all about whatever gender catches our fancy, doing whatever it takes to adhere to the hunt, and before you know it, consequences rise with the body count. Letting ourselves get caught up in our desires does not end with peace. Yet we never consider this path as one to turn from even though we were warned not to share and embrace demonic wisdom by the one true, living God.
The Israelites were yoked to a false god by having sex with the females who sacrificed their lives to demonic influence. In other words, they believed it was worth the burden to attach themselves to nothing. Is nothing more significant than God? Are we seriously trying to arouse the Lord’s jealousy?
How does this apply to Sex, Love, and Marriage?
The worst advice I heard so many times growing up is, “If you’re going to have sex, you need to be married!” What a crazy deception in plain sight by way of a half-truth. What should have been taught is if you’re going to have sex, you need to be married, but if you want to be married, you MUST keep God first by sitting at his table in everything!”
In other words, if you marry a non-believer who does not follow Jesus in a way you can see good fruit in their lives, that union is not a covenantally protected marriage.
Brothers and Sisters in Christ, if we get married seated at the table of demons, we are guaranteed to suffer a marriage of curses and consequences. A marriage of either wrath or slavery. Do not allow Satan to convince you that these things are from God. They are not. A Godless marriage always begins the same way. We yoke to demonic life at their alter and get pumped full of thoughts and ideas that do nothing but make us think we are in complete control of our own destiny.
Now that we understand the spiritual warfare surrounding our relationships, it’s time to learn what it takes to march toward freedom. Watch for Part III of this six-part series called Sex, Love, & Marriage.
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